When working with some of my clients around building resilience and mental wellbeing I have often been asked the question “how do I fix or change that?”. And usually my response tends to be that “there is no quick fix to building mental wellbeing and resilience”.
Mental wellbeing is the state where you are able to say, hand on heart, “you know what, I am doing ok”, while resilience is about the actions and experience you have day-to-day and the things you do to help support yourself and maintain your wellbeing state given those daily experiences.
There are different things that can be done to step into building resilience and mental wellbeing. Accepting a commitment to a daily practice of strategies and techniques to build each of these things is key.
First, begin to understand that it takes time and continuous effort and application. I have often said it’s about being patient and persistent – keep chipping away at what you want to be different or better. Recognise that this practice does require your time and attention.
Secondly, it’s being aware and accepting that no-one can do this for you. Yes they can support and encourage you, but then the rest is within your control. You decide how much time and effort you put into strengthening your own resilience and mental wellbeing. Work to choose to address those things that you have direct control over. This means getting clear on what particular triggers unsettle your state of wellbeing and being proactive about working to manage these.
Thirdly, identify those key strategies that specifically support you on your own unique journey to building resilience and your mental wellbeing. So it may be about identifying specific strategies to use to support and buffer yourself against your known triggers. And then applying your strategies daily in a consistent way. Strategies include but are not limited to giving yourself space and time to let go of your day-to-day worries, meditation, physical exercise, giving yourself enough rest, having supportive conversations with friends, getting outdoors or doing things that you love and help take your mind off things, letting go of those things you do not directly control, and working to stay in the present.
This process is also about accepting that all of this takes time, so don’t give up, don’t get frustrated if you don’t see instant results. Creating new habits and routines will take time to settle into. Remember things take time to shift and improve, particularly when we are working to change what may well be habits of a lifetime up to now.
So pause and think for a moment – how can you proactively manage your own state of wellbeing this week? What do you think would be a good mental wellbeing support for you to integrate into your daily routine? And finally ask yourself “how can I make this a consistent element of my day or week to support my long-term state of wellbeing? “.
If you feel it would help to have a conversation about your next steps – email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org and I would be delighted to arrange a time to talk.